There’s a lovely quote in the aforementioned documentary from a young gay guy: “I love my gay voice. For many, it remains among the most blatant cultural signifiers of gayness, which I guess sucks for people who don’t want to sound gay but is great for those who do. There’s even a documentary about it, 2014’s Do I Sound Gay?, directed by David Thorpe. It has been analyzed by experts and immortalized by the likes of ’70s game-show staples Paul Lynde and Charles Nelson Reilly. You’re referencing the documented phenomenon of male “gay voice.” You know it when you hear it: sibilant s sounds, perhaps a lisp, a melodic sentence flow prone to sonic flights of fancy. I know it’s up to me to decide if I find them attractive and move ahead, but I guess I want someone to tell me that it’s possible that I’m a nincompoop here and that straight men can “sound gay.”
Here are my specific fears-that one or both of these men are in denial about their gender preferences OR that I’m passing up on some fantastic men because they are indeed straight. I can’t even tell if I sound homophobic here, but is it homophobic to be a straight woman and not want to date a gay man? See? My brain is a mess. I am not proud of my response, which is to not want to go out with them again. This is kind of a libido killer for me, and it makes my brain spin. I have met two men who would like to date me, and they both are great! And, they both sound completely gay-like, out-of-the-closet, effeminate-speech gay. I recently started dating again and have just recently been confronted by a situation that’s left me scratching my head. Have a question? Send it to Stoya and Rich here.
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